GUYS ANSWER: ive HOOKED UP with this guy 3 times already (in span of 3 weeks) &im wondering WAT WE ARE EXACTLY

both of us are very busy wit school &i don't think we have time for relationship so i don't wanna scare him away by bringing up that talk. we go to diff colleges &each time its always me &my friends going to 1 of his school's parties(cuz theres nothin to do at my school). when i go see him, we go to some parties 2gether &the whole time his focus is on me-he doesn't flirt much wit me, but rather talks respectfully/seriously to me. then we later go bak to his apartment &hook up. ive spent the night the first two times (1st time=just made out, 2nd time=made out, finger/hand job, NO ). i started to worry i was just a hook up to him, so this last time, we talked/partied for hours then went bak to his apt but be4 hooking up i said i culd only stay for 20 minutes longer. even tho he knew we didn't have much time, we took things really slow &he wasn't as agressive as usual, nor did he try to go as far as usual.wen i had to leave, he playfully fought wit me to stay.